Peter was told by Christ that he was going to have walk on a path he didn’t want to go on when he got old. He received a rare gift — insight into his own future.
Church history tells us he was crucified upside down. He asked to be turned upside down, saying he didn’t deserve to be crucified in the same position as His LORD and Master.
How many caregivers are walking on a path we would never have chosen willingly?
About six months into my marriage a wise and lovely older lady at church looked at me and said, “This wasn’t what you signed up for, was it?”
Hospital stay, doctor’s visits, jobless, sick husband, and no diagnosis — it was terribly frustrating position to be in.
My friend didn’t pretend to understand all about my situation, but her words of kindness and sympathy have traveled with me all these years.
Did I mention I was pregnant?
Being pregnant was both the fulfillment of a long-awaited desire and my worst nightmare at that point. I was so excited AND scared.
How was I going to provide for our child on single salary? What on earth was wrong with my husband? Why couldn’t he just pull it together?
Our car was repossessed in the middle of the night — actually due to no fault of our own. Our payments showed as debited from our bank account and the credit company didn’t receive them. The bank admitted the payments were set, but neither bank or credit company would take responsibility for payments “lost in cyber-limbo”. A lawyer told us we could never win a fight against two big companies with deep pockets.
In fact, now the credit company asked for about half of what was owed in order for us to get our car back.
Utterly impossible to cough up that money in our situation! We were paying out of pocket for specialists’ visits on a very small salary. We lost our car.
Being repo’d in Maryland is akin to organized thievery. We had valuables inside that car that were never returned to us. We lost our car AND the belongings inside.
Amazingly our credit score was clean because the bank admitted it wasn’t our fault. It just wasn’t their fault, either, according to them.
My personal opinion is that the credit company and the repo company were in cahoots. Thieves. Enough said. Their day in front of a just Judge is coming.
Then our landlord decided to sell the cheap apartment house we were renting. The new owners decided to fix the foundation and jacked up the house too swiftly.
Yes, we were living there. My husband was sick in bed when the walls and floor began to heave.
One week before my daughter was born, I came home from work to crooked doorframes and cracks that ran along the joints of wall and ceiling. It looked like an earthquake had hit.
Miraculously, we qualified for a small home loan, due to no car payment and a decent credit score (and looser lending rules)!
God took care of us despite the cruel and unjust loss of our car. Thankfully we still owned an old beater car that was completely paid for.
A week after our daughter was born, we moved. God has kept this roof over our heads for almost 13 years.
There has been nothing easy about this journey, though. Not one single easy year! However, our Good Shepherd has never, ever left or forsaken us.
Peter speaks pointedly and lovingly, too, about fiery trials. He faced a hostile government, spent time in prison, and ended up giving his life for his faith in Christ.
“You have had to suffer various trials, in order that the genuineness of your faith, which is more precious than gold that perishes, though it is tried by fire, may be found to result in praise, glory, and honor at the revelation of Jesus Christ,
Whom having not seen, you love; and in Whom, though you do not see Him now, you believe and you rejoice with joy unspeakable and full of glory, receiving as the result of your faith the salvation of your souls.” I Peter 1:6-9
While we hold on to hope and reach for moments of joy, the only true joy is found in loving Jesus.
Ah, the other piece of sage advice from my lovely friend. “Not what you signed up for? Just know your husband can never meet all your needs. You need to be satisfied with Jesus.”
She then told me how poor and broke they were in their first year of marriage. No baby crib, just a blanket folded into an open dresser drawer for their little one.
I’ve forgotten the other details but it was clear – her first year of marriage wasn’t what she signed up for.
One of these days we’re going to meet our perfect Bridegroom. Peter describes this as “joy unspeakable and full of glory”.
It just doesn’t get any better than this. The best is yet to come!
We already know how much He loves us — freely, fully, without any good reason to love us. He just does. He has told us that nothing can separate us from His love. He’s committed to us for the long haul.
I’ve had three ladies tell me personally in the past few years how their husbands just decided they were done with the marriage. Just done and up and left. No more relationship. The pain in their eyes ripped at my heart.
At points in caregiving, you may feel like your husband’s left you in another senses. One dear lady put it this way, “My husband after his injury just checks out. It’s like he’s stopped trying!” She felt so very alone.
Chronic illness is a physical and mental battle. So is caregiving.
I wouldn’t trade places to experience the pain and physical suffering.
But being a loving caregiver is also an excruciatingly fiery trial at times. Anyone who says differently hasn’t walked in our shoes for very long. Probably never.
You and I are left scrambling to keep all the ducks from tumbling over the Niagra Falls. Forget keeping the ducks in a row!
The only one Who truly understands is Jesus. It’s a good thing He’s our High Priest and no one else. There isn’t another living soul I’d trust to intercede for me before God.
“For we do not have a High Priest who cannot sympathize wiht our weaknesses, but One who was in every sense tempted like we are, yet without sin. Let us then come with confidence to the throne of grace, that we might obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need.” Hebrews 4:15-16
Christ is our sympathetic Bridegroom. He already has His ear and heart tuned to hear us. We have His full and undivided sympathetic attention when we enter into His Presence. How often does that happen in this age of cell phones and technology?
The road we wouldn’t have chosen is taking us to glory — where we will see our glorious Jesus face to face.
“I Can Only Imagine” was played at my sister’s funeral last year.
Can you imagine? Love like no other awaits at the end.